Robert Louis Stevenson sums up success in terms of
happiness in life:
"That man is a success
who has lived well,
Laughed often and loved much;
Who has gained the respect of intelligent men and the love of
children;
Who has filled his niche and accomplished his task;
Who leaves the world better than he found it,
Whether by a perfect poem or a rescued soul,
Who never lacked appreciation of the earth's beauty or failed to
express it;
Who looked for the best in others and gave the best he had."
--Robert Louis Stevenson
The most practical method for controlling the mind is the habit of
keeping it busy with a definite purpose backed by a definite plan..
Napoleon Hill
When you set your happiness goals, follow the S.M.A.R.T. formula
S = Specific
M = Measurable
A = Attainable
R = Realistic
T = Timely
Specific Goals should be straightforward and emphasize what you
want to happen. Specifics help us to focus our efforts and clearly
define what we are going to do. Specific is the What, Why, and How
of the SMART model.
WHAT are you going to do? Use action words such as direct, organize,
coordinate, lead, develop, plan, build etc.
WHY is this important to do at this time? What do you want to
ultimately accomplish?
HOW are you going to do it? Ensure the goals you set is very
specific, clear and easy.
Measurable
If you can't measure it, you can't manage it.
Figure out how you're going to measure success, happiness, giving to
others and nurturing yourself.
Attainable
When you identify goals that are most important to you, you begin
to figure out ways you can make them come true. You develop the
attitudes, abilities, skills, and financial capacity to reach them.
You begin seeing previously overlooked opportunities to bring
yourself closer to the achievement of your goals. A goal needs to
stretch you slightly so you feel you can do it and it will need a
real commitment from you. The feeling of success which this brings
helps you to remain motivated.
Realistic
This is not a synonym for "easy." Realistic, in this case, means
"do-able." It means that the learning curve is not a vertical slope;
that the skills needed to do the work are available; that the
project fits with the overall strategy and goals of the
organization. A realistic project may push the skills and
knowledge of the people working on it but it shouldn't break them.
The goal needs to be realistic for you and where you are at the
moment. A goal of never again eating sweets, cakes, crisps and
chocolate may not be realistic for someone who really enjoys these
foods. Set the bar high enough for a satisfying achievement!
Timely
Set a timeframe for the goal: for next week, in three months, a
year. Putting an end point on your goal gives you a clear target to
work towards. If you don't set a time, the commitment is too
vague. It tends not to happen because you feel you can start at any
time. Without a time limit, there's no urgency to start taking
action now.
The Essentials of Good Decision Making
1. YOU have to decide:
We cannot resolve things because we have not accepted that we have
to decide. Any time you decide you give up something. Decisions
become paralyzing because we are unwilling to sustain the grief.
Basically a decision is to cut away something. This does not mean
it diminishes your happiness, it means being happy with the fact
that you finally made a choice and you're willing to stick with it
until you succeed.
2. Most critical decisions are made without knowing the
outcome: Think of the mythical stories of the Hobbit,
Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter. Heroes and heroines are reluctant and
almost always do not know the way. Decisions require courage. Life
is a refining process that calls us to be better people. Or we can
avoid the decisions and continue to live our lives drifting along
like clouds in the wind, blown in every direction without a guide
or plan.
3. True decisions require that we do all that we can to make
them happen. "Going to any length."
a. Hoping - beginning to desire to change
b. Wishing - having a moderate desire to change
c. Wanting - having a high desire to change
d. Weathering - committing to make it happen
e. Going to any length - using every possible advantage for
success.
4. The critical decision in life is to decide to come to your own
assistance. Ask yourself, "Am I worthwhile enough to fight for?"
It is much more than the will to survive. It is about your
willingness to come to your own assistance. Everything turns on it.
What are the family messages you were told that interfere with
coming to your own assistance? Loyalty to the family secrets?
Not being good enough? Seeking comfort in dreams or the past without
living in the present? Perfectionism? Not deciding simply creates
suffering, prolonged agony, squanders opportunities and talent and
makes you vulnerable for addiction and depression. Life is hard
enough without adding the unfinished.
happiness in life:
"That man is a success
who has lived well,
Laughed often and loved much;
Who has gained the respect of intelligent men and the love of
children;
Who has filled his niche and accomplished his task;
Who leaves the world better than he found it,
Whether by a perfect poem or a rescued soul,
Who never lacked appreciation of the earth's beauty or failed to
express it;
Who looked for the best in others and gave the best he had."
--Robert Louis Stevenson
The most practical method for controlling the mind is the habit of
keeping it busy with a definite purpose backed by a definite plan..
Napoleon Hill
When you set your happiness goals, follow the S.M.A.R.T. formula
S = Specific
M = Measurable
A = Attainable
R = Realistic
T = Timely
Specific Goals should be straightforward and emphasize what you
want to happen. Specifics help us to focus our efforts and clearly
define what we are going to do. Specific is the What, Why, and How
of the SMART model.
WHAT are you going to do? Use action words such as direct, organize,
coordinate, lead, develop, plan, build etc.
WHY is this important to do at this time? What do you want to
ultimately accomplish?
HOW are you going to do it? Ensure the goals you set is very
specific, clear and easy.
Measurable
If you can't measure it, you can't manage it.
Figure out how you're going to measure success, happiness, giving to
others and nurturing yourself.
Attainable
When you identify goals that are most important to you, you begin
to figure out ways you can make them come true. You develop the
attitudes, abilities, skills, and financial capacity to reach them.
You begin seeing previously overlooked opportunities to bring
yourself closer to the achievement of your goals. A goal needs to
stretch you slightly so you feel you can do it and it will need a
real commitment from you. The feeling of success which this brings
helps you to remain motivated.
Realistic
This is not a synonym for "easy." Realistic, in this case, means
"do-able." It means that the learning curve is not a vertical slope;
that the skills needed to do the work are available; that the
project fits with the overall strategy and goals of the
organization. A realistic project may push the skills and
knowledge of the people working on it but it shouldn't break them.
The goal needs to be realistic for you and where you are at the
moment. A goal of never again eating sweets, cakes, crisps and
chocolate may not be realistic for someone who really enjoys these
foods. Set the bar high enough for a satisfying achievement!
Timely
Set a timeframe for the goal: for next week, in three months, a
year. Putting an end point on your goal gives you a clear target to
work towards. If you don't set a time, the commitment is too
vague. It tends not to happen because you feel you can start at any
time. Without a time limit, there's no urgency to start taking
action now.
The Essentials of Good Decision Making
1. YOU have to decide:
We cannot resolve things because we have not accepted that we have
to decide. Any time you decide you give up something. Decisions
become paralyzing because we are unwilling to sustain the grief.
Basically a decision is to cut away something. This does not mean
it diminishes your happiness, it means being happy with the fact
that you finally made a choice and you're willing to stick with it
until you succeed.
2. Most critical decisions are made without knowing the
outcome: Think of the mythical stories of the Hobbit,
Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter. Heroes and heroines are reluctant and
almost always do not know the way. Decisions require courage. Life
is a refining process that calls us to be better people. Or we can
avoid the decisions and continue to live our lives drifting along
like clouds in the wind, blown in every direction without a guide
or plan.
3. True decisions require that we do all that we can to make
them happen. "Going to any length."
a. Hoping - beginning to desire to change
b. Wishing - having a moderate desire to change
c. Wanting - having a high desire to change
d. Weathering - committing to make it happen
e. Going to any length - using every possible advantage for
success.
4. The critical decision in life is to decide to come to your own
assistance. Ask yourself, "Am I worthwhile enough to fight for?"
It is much more than the will to survive. It is about your
willingness to come to your own assistance. Everything turns on it.
What are the family messages you were told that interfere with
coming to your own assistance? Loyalty to the family secrets?
Not being good enough? Seeking comfort in dreams or the past without
living in the present? Perfectionism? Not deciding simply creates
suffering, prolonged agony, squanders opportunities and talent and
makes you vulnerable for addiction and depression. Life is hard
enough without adding the unfinished.
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