年龄无需计，長了智慧，也长了见识。
世间富贵如浮云，故名利莫强求。亲情友爱最可贵，应多多珍惜！
心态调适得好，一切随缘惜福，处事为人，轻松自在，泰然处之，
乐乐，潇潇洒洒走一回人生旅途 吧！
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Saturday, December 31, 2011
Thursday, December 8, 2011
SELF-CONFIDENCE!
Here's the truth about self-confidence - almost everyone struggles with it in one way or another. When you feel under confident, you are questioning your own power. This is something that starts when we are young - in fact it starts before we even realize it. The good news is that you can do something about it now, and that is what I want to help you do.
In this issue, my friend and self-esteem expert, has an amazing article to share with you. Now, here's the best part - what he shares is all geared toward how self-esteem issues effect children - and if you have children, you will be able to use what you find here to give them a step-up in the world. But there is more power in what Dr. Joe has to share - and this is what I really want you to pay attention to - remember I said these challenges with self-esteem start when we are young? Read this issue through and you will now have insight into any struggles you may have.
There is still a child in all of us - and with the tools you will get from reading this issue, you will be able to empower the child within you AND any children in your life!
To make sure this newsletter serves YOU; your comments and feedback are critical, so let me know what you think and leave me a comment! You'll find a link at the bottom of each issue that leads you to our site to leave your feedback.
Ok, let's get started - I hope you enjoy this issue!
Life Mastery Is Yours!
~ Kristen
by Dr. Joe Rubino
Studies show that high self-esteem is the #1 ingredient essential for developing happiness, fulfillment, rich relationships, and overall success in life. In the life of every child, usually sometime between birth and age 6, something happens to have the child doubt him or herself. Someone says or does something that has the child believe that he or she is flawed, unlovable, not worthy, imperfect. This initial stressful incident is the first real realization that the child is not perfect and fails to measure up to society's standards in some important way. The initial upset can be one of two types. The first assault could be an unkind word from a peer or authority figure, a spanking, an insult, an argument, a bullying or name calling episode. It could occur as a direct result of something the child said or did that provoked an attack on his or her sense of worthiness or ability to fit in.
The second type of self-esteem diminishing episode can be as a result of the child misinterpreting someone's words or actions to mean that the child is flawed, unlovable, or defective in some way. In such a case, no insult or demeaning connotation was intended. The facts were that someone said or did something. The child mistakenly made up that there was something wrong with him or her as a result of what was said or done.
Daily, there are hundreds of opportunities for a child to misinterpret life in a way that tarnishes their self-image over the long term. A common example of such a misinterpretation can be when parents get divorced. What happened was the adults fell out of love or realized that they wanted to separate. What the child made up was that if he had only been a better boy and did a better job cleaning his room, or picking up his toys, mom and dad wouldn't have fought so much and would still be together. The child may make up that he is bad and people leave him because of this.
Another example of this faulty reasoning might be an episode where the parents drop off a child for a week with a relative. Perhaps they feel they need a vacation or might need to tend to some business matter and decide that it would be easier for the child to be minded by a sitter. The child makes up that his parents don't love him and that people want to get rid of him. With this sort of tendency toward faulty interpretation, there are literally thousands of opportunities for the child to attach a meaning to the situation that begins the process of eroding self-esteem.
The process of diminished self-esteem does not stop at such an initial decision regarding the child's value. The child, armed with the belief that she is not good enough, now scans for additional situations that may serve as more evidence to reinforce this initial thought of being flawed. During such potentially upsetting events, the child reinforces this idea of unworthiness by further interpreting life events to prove the fact that she is defective. After years of accumulating such evidence, their self-image deteriorates further with every episode. Before long, there is no doubt in the person's mind that there is something wrong with them. After all, they have created a self-fulfilling prophesy to cement this belief firmly in their self-perception.
Parents can do much to support their children to feel good about themselves and to champion their child's self-image. They can continually reinforce the concept that no one is perfect and all one can do is their best. They can be a source of unconditional love, supporting the child at every opportunity and encouraging them to see themselves as worthy of affection, abundance, love, and trust. They can make sure that the child understands that they, as parents, might not always agree with the child's behavior. However, they can continually reinforce that the child is NOT their behavior. Everyone makes mistakes and life is a process of learning and growing. No matter what mistakes the child makes, he or she must realize that they are always inherently good, lovable, and worthy.
Parents can continually reinforce that they love their children unconditionally. Children need to realize that even when they make mistakes and parents do not approve of their behavior, this does not affect their love for them or their sense of value. Children will benefit from knowing that they are loved for who they are, not just what they do.
Parents can speak respectfully to their children, reassuring them of their competence, capability, and inherent value. They can empower them to make their own choices whenever possible, fostering their belief in their own ability to make wise decisions and learn from any mistakes. They can give them responsibilities that nurture their self-confidence and belief in their abilities. Whether that looks like making their bed, helping with household chores, or selecting their favorite juice at the grocery store, each can serve as an opportunity for the child to grow in self-confidence.
Parents can consistently acknowledge their children for worthwhile qualities they see in them. They can get into the habit of finding something good about them every day and pointing it out. Parents can support their children to see what might be missing for them to be more effective with other people or in accomplishing their goals. Rather than focusing on their weakness and faults, they can empower their strengths and communicate that everyone has unique talents and gifts that make them special. They can support children to identify their passions and pursue their special interests and develop their gifts.
Parents can teach their children to interpret life with empathy. They can support them to imagine what it is like in another person's world so they can better understand why people do the things they do. They can support their children to not take the reactions of others personally. When children realize that no one else can make them angry, sad or afraid, only they themselves can, they learn to not be reactive and easily provoked by others' issues. Parents can teach their children to forgive themselves for mistakes they make. They can teach them the value of cleaning up any mistakes by speaking and acting responsibly. They can also teach them to forgive others, knowing that they are doing the best they can based upon how they see the world. This does not mean that we condone bad behavior. It means that we can better understand why others do hurtful things at times and separate out that they do them rather than interpreting that they do them TO us.
Parents can teach their children to have gratitude for their blessings in life. They can teach them that the world is an endless source of abundance for those who believe in themselves and their ability to attract good things. They can teach them to expect success, happiness, rich relationships, and abundance. They can also teach them to play full out for what they want, committed to their goals with a vision of success without being attached to any result.
Many mistakenly confuse high self-esteem with ego. It is important to distinguish between fostering high self-esteem in children, as opposed to creating ego-maniacs obsessed with themselves at the expense of others. High overall self-esteem means being competent and capable of producing a result in every area of life. This includes being effective in our relationships and in our communication with others with an appreciation for what it is like in the world of other people. Those who care only about themselves with no concern for others do not, by my definition, possess high self-esteem.
It would serve parents to commit to themselves being perpetual students of personal development, knowing that their children will model their actions and their approach to life. It is with such an energy of respect, love, and acceptance that children will receive the tools they'll need to grow into self-actualized, happy, and self-assured adults possessing high self-esteem.
Here's the truth about self-confidence - almost everyone struggles with it in one way or another. When you feel under confident, you are questioning your own power. This is something that starts when we are young - in fact it starts before we even realize it. The good news is that you can do something about it now, and that is what I want to help you do.
In this issue, my friend and self-esteem expert, has an amazing article to share with you. Now, here's the best part - what he shares is all geared toward how self-esteem issues effect children - and if you have children, you will be able to use what you find here to give them a step-up in the world. But there is more power in what Dr. Joe has to share - and this is what I really want you to pay attention to - remember I said these challenges with self-esteem start when we are young? Read this issue through and you will now have insight into any struggles you may have.
There is still a child in all of us - and with the tools you will get from reading this issue, you will be able to empower the child within you AND any children in your life!
To make sure this newsletter serves YOU; your comments and feedback are critical, so let me know what you think and leave me a comment! You'll find a link at the bottom of each issue that leads you to our site to leave your feedback.
Ok, let's get started - I hope you enjoy this issue!
~ Kristen
| "It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not." -- Author Unknown |
Championing Your Children to Develop
High Self-Esteem
High Self-Esteem
Studies show that high self-esteem is the #1 ingredient essential for developing happiness, fulfillment, rich relationships, and overall success in life. In the life of every child, usually sometime between birth and age 6, something happens to have the child doubt him or herself. Someone says or does something that has the child believe that he or she is flawed, unlovable, not worthy, imperfect. This initial stressful incident is the first real realization that the child is not perfect and fails to measure up to society's standards in some important way. The initial upset can be one of two types. The first assault could be an unkind word from a peer or authority figure, a spanking, an insult, an argument, a bullying or name calling episode. It could occur as a direct result of something the child said or did that provoked an attack on his or her sense of worthiness or ability to fit in.
The second type of self-esteem diminishing episode can be as a result of the child misinterpreting someone's words or actions to mean that the child is flawed, unlovable, or defective in some way. In such a case, no insult or demeaning connotation was intended. The facts were that someone said or did something. The child mistakenly made up that there was something wrong with him or her as a result of what was said or done.
Daily, there are hundreds of opportunities for a child to misinterpret life in a way that tarnishes their self-image over the long term. A common example of such a misinterpretation can be when parents get divorced. What happened was the adults fell out of love or realized that they wanted to separate. What the child made up was that if he had only been a better boy and did a better job cleaning his room, or picking up his toys, mom and dad wouldn't have fought so much and would still be together. The child may make up that he is bad and people leave him because of this.
Another example of this faulty reasoning might be an episode where the parents drop off a child for a week with a relative. Perhaps they feel they need a vacation or might need to tend to some business matter and decide that it would be easier for the child to be minded by a sitter. The child makes up that his parents don't love him and that people want to get rid of him. With this sort of tendency toward faulty interpretation, there are literally thousands of opportunities for the child to attach a meaning to the situation that begins the process of eroding self-esteem.
The process of diminished self-esteem does not stop at such an initial decision regarding the child's value. The child, armed with the belief that she is not good enough, now scans for additional situations that may serve as more evidence to reinforce this initial thought of being flawed. During such potentially upsetting events, the child reinforces this idea of unworthiness by further interpreting life events to prove the fact that she is defective. After years of accumulating such evidence, their self-image deteriorates further with every episode. Before long, there is no doubt in the person's mind that there is something wrong with them. After all, they have created a self-fulfilling prophesy to cement this belief firmly in their self-perception.
Parents can do much to support their children to feel good about themselves and to champion their child's self-image. They can continually reinforce the concept that no one is perfect and all one can do is their best. They can be a source of unconditional love, supporting the child at every opportunity and encouraging them to see themselves as worthy of affection, abundance, love, and trust. They can make sure that the child understands that they, as parents, might not always agree with the child's behavior. However, they can continually reinforce that the child is NOT their behavior. Everyone makes mistakes and life is a process of learning and growing. No matter what mistakes the child makes, he or she must realize that they are always inherently good, lovable, and worthy.
Parents can continually reinforce that they love their children unconditionally. Children need to realize that even when they make mistakes and parents do not approve of their behavior, this does not affect their love for them or their sense of value. Children will benefit from knowing that they are loved for who they are, not just what they do.
Parents can speak respectfully to their children, reassuring them of their competence, capability, and inherent value. They can empower them to make their own choices whenever possible, fostering their belief in their own ability to make wise decisions and learn from any mistakes. They can give them responsibilities that nurture their self-confidence and belief in their abilities. Whether that looks like making their bed, helping with household chores, or selecting their favorite juice at the grocery store, each can serve as an opportunity for the child to grow in self-confidence.
Parents can consistently acknowledge their children for worthwhile qualities they see in them. They can get into the habit of finding something good about them every day and pointing it out. Parents can support their children to see what might be missing for them to be more effective with other people or in accomplishing their goals. Rather than focusing on their weakness and faults, they can empower their strengths and communicate that everyone has unique talents and gifts that make them special. They can support children to identify their passions and pursue their special interests and develop their gifts.
Parents can teach their children to interpret life with empathy. They can support them to imagine what it is like in another person's world so they can better understand why people do the things they do. They can support their children to not take the reactions of others personally. When children realize that no one else can make them angry, sad or afraid, only they themselves can, they learn to not be reactive and easily provoked by others' issues. Parents can teach their children to forgive themselves for mistakes they make. They can teach them the value of cleaning up any mistakes by speaking and acting responsibly. They can also teach them to forgive others, knowing that they are doing the best they can based upon how they see the world. This does not mean that we condone bad behavior. It means that we can better understand why others do hurtful things at times and separate out that they do them rather than interpreting that they do them TO us.
Parents can teach their children to have gratitude for their blessings in life. They can teach them that the world is an endless source of abundance for those who believe in themselves and their ability to attract good things. They can teach them to expect success, happiness, rich relationships, and abundance. They can also teach them to play full out for what they want, committed to their goals with a vision of success without being attached to any result.
Many mistakenly confuse high self-esteem with ego. It is important to distinguish between fostering high self-esteem in children, as opposed to creating ego-maniacs obsessed with themselves at the expense of others. High overall self-esteem means being competent and capable of producing a result in every area of life. This includes being effective in our relationships and in our communication with others with an appreciation for what it is like in the world of other people. Those who care only about themselves with no concern for others do not, by my definition, possess high self-esteem.
It would serve parents to commit to themselves being perpetual students of personal development, knowing that their children will model their actions and their approach to life. It is with such an energy of respect, love, and acceptance that children will receive the tools they'll need to grow into self-actualized, happy, and self-assured adults possessing high self-esteem.
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
Lemon (Citrus) is a miraculous product to kill cancer cells. It is 10,000 times stronger than chemotherapy.
Why do we not know about that? Because there are laboratories interested in making a synthetic version that will bring them huge profits. You can now help a friend in need by letting him/her know that lemon juice is beneficial in preventing the disease. Its taste is pleasant and it does not produce the horrific effects of chemotherapy. How many people will die while this closely guarded secret is kept, so as not to jeopardize the beneficial multimillionaires large corporations? As you know, the lemon tree is known for its varieties of lemons and limes. You can eat the fruit in different ways: you can eat the pulp, juice press, prepare drinks, sorbets, pastries, etc... It is credited with many virtues, but the most interesting is the effect it produces on cysts and tumors. This plant is a proven remedy against cancers of all types. Some say it is very useful in all variants of cancer. It is considered also as an anti microbial spectrum against bacterial infections and fungi, effective against internal parasites and worms, it regulates blood pressure which is too high and an antidepressant, combats stress and nervous disorders.
The source of this information is fascinating: it comes from one of the largest drug manufacturers in the world, says that after more than 20 laboratory tests since 1970, the extracts revealed that: It destroys the malignant cells in 12 cancers
including colon, breast, prostate, lung and pancreas ... The compounds of this tree showed 10,000 times better than the product Adriamycin, a drug normally used chemotherapeutic in the world, slowing the growth of cancer cells. And what is even more astonishing: this type of therapy with lemon extract only destroys malignant cancer cells and it does not affect healthy cells.
Institute of Health Sciences, 819 N. L.L.C. Cause Street , Baltimore , MD1201
Why do we not know about that? Because there are laboratories interested in making a synthetic version that will bring them huge profits. You can now help a friend in need by letting him/her know that lemon juice is beneficial in preventing the disease. Its taste is pleasant and it does not produce the horrific effects of chemotherapy. How many people will die while this closely guarded secret is kept, so as not to jeopardize the beneficial multimillionaires large corporations? As you know, the lemon tree is known for its varieties of lemons and limes. You can eat the fruit in different ways: you can eat the pulp, juice press, prepare drinks, sorbets, pastries, etc... It is credited with many virtues, but the most interesting is the effect it produces on cysts and tumors. This plant is a proven remedy against cancers of all types. Some say it is very useful in all variants of cancer. It is considered also as an anti microbial spectrum against bacterial infections and fungi, effective against internal parasites and worms, it regulates blood pressure which is too high and an antidepressant, combats stress and nervous disorders.
The source of this information is fascinating: it comes from one of the largest drug manufacturers in the world, says that after more than 20 laboratory tests since 1970, the extracts revealed that: It destroys the malignant cells in 12 cancers
including colon, breast, prostate, lung and pancreas ... The compounds of this tree showed 10,000 times better than the product Adriamycin, a drug normally used chemotherapeutic in the world, slowing the growth of cancer cells. And what is even more astonishing: this type of therapy with lemon extract only destroys malignant cancer cells and it does not affect healthy cells.
Institute of Health Sciences, 819 N. L.L.C. Cause Street , Baltimore , MD1201
Saturday, December 3, 2011
A man in a hot air balloon realized he was lost. He reduced altitude and spotted a woman below. He descended a bit more and shouted, "Excuse me, can you help me? I promised a friend I would meet him an hour ago, but I don't know where I am." The woman below replied, "You're in a hot air balloon hovering approximately 30 feet above the ground. You're between 40 and 41 degrees north latitude and between 59 and 60 degrees west longitude.""You must be an engineer," said the balloonist. "I am," replied the woman, "How did you know?" "Well," answered the balloonist, "everything you told me is, technically correct, but I've no idea what to make of your information, and the fact is I'm still lost. Frankly, you've not been much help at all. If anything, you've delayed my trip." |
The woman below responded, "You must be in Senior Management."
"I am," replied the balloonist, "but how did you know?"
"Well," said the woman, "you don't know where you are or where you're going. You have risen to where you are due to a large quantity of hot air.
You made a promise, which you've no idea how to keep, and you expect people beneath you to solve your problems."
Thursday, December 1, 2011
If you live under the illusion that you are "not enough" you will
never see yourself as the Cup. Instead you will see yourself as a
crack or a fault in the Cup. Sure we are all flawed in some ways,
but this idea that there is something inherently wrong with us is
absurd. How did we come to this conclusion? Who is holding the
measuring tape? Usually some authority figure, organization or
religion that is trying to control us by attacking our self-worth.
It is important to understand the distinction between
self-improvement and self-worth. At its very core self-improvement
says that we are broken and we need to be fixed. It comes from
striving to be something or someone other than who you are.
Self-worth is knowing that you already have everything you need and
that you are the person you've been waiting for. There is nothing
to reach. There is only BEING and LIVING who you are.
You are worthy because you are one with All That Is. You don't
need "self-improvement" because you cannot improve who you are -
your Authentic Self.
The goal in life is not to BECOME who you are, but to ACCEPT who
you are is enough. Said another way, if where you are today isn't
good enough, then nothing you can do or achieve will ever be good
enough. You can't be fixed because you are not broken.
Let's go back to the metaphor of the acorn and the oak tree again.
The acorn is complete, but it still it is not an oak tree. It
contains the BLUEPRINT of the oak tree and by realizing its
CAPACITY to be an oak tree on a day-to-day bases, it grows into the
fullness of that inherent blueprint. We are like the acorn and
each of us has the ability to embrace the perfect blueprint of our
greatness.
The ONLY way you can eliminate the feeling that you are "not
enough" is to declare RIGHT NOW that you have the CAPACITY for
greatness and that you are enough just the way you are and then
start to live that on a daily basis.
What is important to remember is we are the Cup. It's a Cup that
naturally expands to make room for us to expand.
Today will bring you a new awareness, a lesson or a manifestation
that you are making progress - IF YOU LOOK FOR IT! No matter how
large or small, please record it in your Evidence Journal. It will
only take a few moments and will AUTOMATICALLY put you in the Flow.
never see yourself as the Cup. Instead you will see yourself as a
crack or a fault in the Cup. Sure we are all flawed in some ways,
but this idea that there is something inherently wrong with us is
absurd. How did we come to this conclusion? Who is holding the
measuring tape? Usually some authority figure, organization or
religion that is trying to control us by attacking our self-worth.
It is important to understand the distinction between
self-improvement and self-worth. At its very core self-improvement
says that we are broken and we need to be fixed. It comes from
striving to be something or someone other than who you are.
Self-worth is knowing that you already have everything you need and
that you are the person you've been waiting for. There is nothing
to reach. There is only BEING and LIVING who you are.
You are worthy because you are one with All That Is. You don't
need "self-improvement" because you cannot improve who you are -
your Authentic Self.
The goal in life is not to BECOME who you are, but to ACCEPT who
you are is enough. Said another way, if where you are today isn't
good enough, then nothing you can do or achieve will ever be good
enough. You can't be fixed because you are not broken.
Let's go back to the metaphor of the acorn and the oak tree again.
The acorn is complete, but it still it is not an oak tree. It
contains the BLUEPRINT of the oak tree and by realizing its
CAPACITY to be an oak tree on a day-to-day bases, it grows into the
fullness of that inherent blueprint. We are like the acorn and
each of us has the ability to embrace the perfect blueprint of our
greatness.
The ONLY way you can eliminate the feeling that you are "not
enough" is to declare RIGHT NOW that you have the CAPACITY for
greatness and that you are enough just the way you are and then
start to live that on a daily basis.
What is important to remember is we are the Cup. It's a Cup that
naturally expands to make room for us to expand.
Today will bring you a new awareness, a lesson or a manifestation
that you are making progress - IF YOU LOOK FOR IT! No matter how
large or small, please record it in your Evidence Journal. It will
only take a few moments and will AUTOMATICALLY put you in the Flow.
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